Being a transgender person in 2018 is much more fulfilling than 10 or 15 years ago, but it’s not without its challenges. Our society still can’t come to terms with someone being gender fluid, and there is still a long road ahead to recognition, but that doesn’t mean the dating scene hasn’t evolved substantially. Today we discuss some of the things that a TS person must keep in mind when actively looking for dates, from honesty and self-confidence to dating in the real world. Transsexual dating is no longer off limits to anyone, regardless of their sexual preferences or desires, which translates to a greater pool of potential candidates for you to choose from.
#1: Digital Dating Is Your Best Friend
Before you get comfortable with approaching strangers in a bar and starting up a conversation, sticking to digital dating is your best bet to find people to date fast. From Tinder or other dating apps to TS dating sites that are all over the web, you can pick and choose what you want to use to maximize the results of your search. Opting for a heavy hitter such as Tinder means you’ll have to state your preferences openly in your profile for everyone to see, which means if you have any privacy issues, mainstream dating apps will do next to nothing to resolve them. On the other hand, you’d be casting your net wide, and meeting all sorts of people to hang out with on a Friday night. It’s advisable to sign up for one of the TS dating sites as well where you can remain slightly more mysterious yet open to new experiences.
#2: Invest Time In Creating And Maintaining Your Profile
Juggling between a dating app and a dating site profile takes time and effort, and if you’re not ready to put in the work to create an inviting page, chances are the results of your search might not be that fulfilling. For starters, make sure you update your profile picture at least every couple of weeks, and the information you share about yourself is interesting and written in a friendly tone that won’t intimidate any newbie looking to date a cute transgender woman. Keep it brief, yet entertaining, and leave plenty to the imagination except whether you’re pre-op or post-op because that’s what most people want to know. If you opt to leave out that information, you’ll take a stand against objectification, and in all likelihood will be swamped with messages asking you to answer that simple question first before the conversation goes any further.
#3: Date In Public Places
The road to finding a perfect match is rocky for TS singles and for anyone else who’s serious about putting an end to singledom. You’ll go on countless bad dates with people who couldn’t be more different from what you’re looking for, but that’s all part of the journey. At the same time, you need to be smart about meeting new people and going out with them to stay safe and on the right track. This means when meeting up with someone for the first time, make sure you pick a public place with lots of people around to be on the safe side. If you have a weird feeling in your stomach about any subsequent dates, listen to your intuition and err on the side of caution. Never give out your personal information to anyone, and never, for the life of you, go into anyone’s apartment unless you feel like you’ve known them long enough, which is at least several weeks.
#4: Have “The Talk” Before Having Sex
There is much more to a relationship than genitalia, but before you have sex with someone, you should talk about it first, and see what each of you is comfortable with. Some pre-op trans women are not comfortable with their penises being touched, while others don’t mind it. At the same time, some men who date you will be open to penetration, and others won’t. Either way, this is a conversation that you need to have to make sure both sides are comfortable. The bottom line is to find someone who’s not only comfortable with you in the bedroom because that just means they’re not comfortable with who they really are, and you don’t need that in your life.