Going back to dating after finding out that you are hiv positive can be an extremely nerve-wrecking experience. However, you should not back down and give up on dating as there are so many ways you can get back out there.
You should remember that your status does not change who you are, nor does it define it. You are still you, with all your virtues and flaws, so finding someone who’ll fall in love with you should not be much different than it used to be. Besides, hiv dating is not something that’s unheard of. Read on to find out about some tips we have in store for you, that could help you get back out there.
What probably won’t cross your mind at first is that now an entirely new pool of people opened up. Yes, we’re talking about other PLWHs you might have never considered before. Also, this might serve as a helpful starting point. If you don’t know where you could meet others that share your condition, try to ask someone from your support group to point you in the right direction. However, keep in mind that dating other hiv positive people does not mean safer sex. What this means is that you should still always use protection, to avoid re-infection or other sexually transmitted infections. Also, if you decide to give everyone a chance, expect a reaction when you decide to share info about your status. Positive or negative, a reaction will always be there, so don’t be surprised when it happens. And just as a safety tip – when telling the other person about your status make sure you’re in a public place, as you can never know they may react.
Responsibility and Consequences
Secondly, you are now the one who has to be responsible. Avoid alcohol if you’re going to a party, especially if you can’t hold your liquor. You don’t want to wake up the next morning, realizing that you don’t remember anything, and having to inform your one-night-stand that they might be infected. Trust us, this is the situation you want to avoid at all costs.
Not an Air-Borne Virus
Another thing that’s worth mentioning is that hiv should not define nor determine the way you live your life. You can still go shopping with your friends (who you can choose to tell, or not – it’s completely up to you), you can still play basketball with your crew, and you can still go fishing whenever you feel like it. Don’t ever let anyone or anything dictate your lifestyle.
Finally, if you decide to take your dating online, use the same precautionary methods you would normally use. Hiv dating sites can be full of various predators, as any other sites, so make sure you do anything that’s in your power to protect yourself. This means that first dates should happen in public where there’s enough light (so movies are off!) and people around you; you should never let the other person know too many personal details about you and always inform a friend or a family member where you are going and whit who.