Dating a widower is often considered daunting and pointless, because widowers are perceived as emotionally unavailable people. However, the truth is far from it. Yes, they have been thorough a lot and they have lost a person who they loved very much. That doesn’t mean they can’t love ever again. After a certain amount of time has passed, many widowers start dating and enjoying life again. On the other hand, there are those who will always keep their late wife on the pedestal. If you are interested in widows and widowers dating, here are some pros and cons which should help you make up your mind whether you should do it.
Is he ready to date?
This is the trickiest part of widower dating. You have to evaluate whether or not your potential match is ready to go out again. It may sound simple, but it is not. Sure, you can always ask him, but keep in mind that even if he tells you that he is, that doesn’t have to be the case. Many widowers try to repress their sorrow by going out. You can spot them easily. Those are men who have lost their wife recently, and now date everything that walks on two legs. Just because they are back on the market, doesn’t they should be. They are just keeping their mind busy so they don’t have to think about their loss. If you want just a casual fling, that is fine, but if you are looking for something more meaningful, stay away from these guys. Widowers who are not ready to love again still have their spouse’s things all over their house or look for partners who look exactly like their deceased lover.
He knows how to cherish his time with you
Are you tired of men who go on a date with you and don’t pay attention to what you say or always stare at their phone? If you want a man who knows how to live in the moment and make best of every situation, dating a widower might be for you. They are fully aware that life is short and that they have to stop and smell the roses. They know how it feels like to lose someone, so they are sensitive, compassionate and patient.
But he will need some alone time, too
From time to time, he may need to be alone with his thoughts. Just give him some peace and quiet and don’t be needy. Forcing a widower to spend time with you is definitely a wrong move.